These cultures of violent punishment are ingrained within African-American communities. In fact, they are often considered marks of good parenting. In my childhood, parents who “thought their children were too good to be spanked” were looked upon with derision. I have heard everyone from preachers to comedians lament the passing of days when a child would do something wrong at a neighbor’s house, get spanked by that neighbor, and then come home and get spanked again for daring to misbehave at someone else’s house. For many that is a vision of a strong black community, in which children are so loved and cared for that everyone has a stake in making sure that those children turn out well, and “know how to act.” In other words, it is clear to me that Peterson views his willingness to engage in strong discipline as a mark of being a good father.
Perhaps it is time to acknowledge that the loving intent and sincerity behind these violent modes of discipline makes them no less violent, no more acceptable. Some of our ideas about discipline are unproductive, dangerous and wrong. It’s time we had courage to say that.
I am not interested in haggling any more with black people about the difference between spankings and abuse, because when emotions and stakes are both as high as they are, lines are far too easily crossed.
Stakes are high because parenting black children in a culture of white supremacy forces us to place too high a price on making sure our children are disciplined and well-behaved. I know that I personally place an extremely high value on children being respectful, well-behaved and submissive to authority figures. I’m fairly sure this isn’t a good thing.
something i’m thinking about this morning:
i keep seeing articles about Elizabeth Warren’s anti-student debt initiatives on my facebook dash, probably because i follow a lot of labor rights organizations pages. and i can’t help but think that at some point the progressive left needs to have a conversation about how its inherently contradictory to on the one hand be someone who comes out swinging against predatory debt practices but on the other hand supports the U.S funding Israel to “defend itself”.
you can’t on the one hand say that you believe in reducing student debt and predatory lending practices but then on the other hand say you’re perfectly okay with the United States giving Israel obscene amounts of money every year to defend itself. its really no secret that in 2014 that the amount of money the United States devotes to not only its own military and even Israel’s military dramatically pales in comparison to what is being put back in the hands of public education, federal financial aid programs for undergraduate and graduate programs, and initiatives to reduce student debt.
We’ve been in a country that has prioritized war over education for almost fifteen years. That has slashed social services programs, education programs, myriads of federally funded programs in order to support our own military interests and the military interests of other countries who continue to run afoul.
I mean we didn’t have money for food stamps. food stamps had to get cut. but we magically had money to give to Israel when Operation Iron Dome started this summer? Suddenly we had cash coming out of our pockets ready and willing to be given?
In what “progressive” universe does that even make sense?!
suffice to say, if Elizabeth Warren really believed in a better financial future for the United States she wouldn’t support giving Israel money to “defend itself”
i understand folks on the left really want a progressive candidate to back. but if that’s the case you at least have to be able to hold them accountable as to how their politics not only support militarism and genocide but are fundamentally contradictory as to how they’re presenting themselves
So this is a thing that happened…
Christian Day, a pagan writer and store owner, sent me this love letter after outing my account name on Facebook. Like many people who have an alias on facebook, I have a rather good reason for doing so. (I have a Meatspace stalker, who use to mail me bits of dead things, and threaten my children, because he wanted me to bear only HIS children. It was a living nightmare that I lived for over six months.) Alas… I was not very happy with Mr. Day for this, and told him so.
This screenshot shows his response.
You are not misreading that. He actually said “…if he rapes you, please call out my name while he does.”
Facebook has been less than helpful during all this… As a matter of fact, they have sided with HIM, yanking my post with this screenshot on it, and putting my account on a 24 hour hold for “Harassment.” of Mr. Day.
I have… No real game plan at this point, other than not allowing this to go unseen by the many Pagans on the web. I have had such an outpouring of support from my friends and the general pagan community on facebook that it honestly made me cry. On another note, I have had to un-relax, knowing my stalker is still out there and can find me now. But, I will not back down. This shit IS NOT OK for our so called “Pagan Leaders” to do.
Rock on my Beauties… Pass this along if you wish, repost it everywhere, and let us not allow this “Man” to have a moment peace until he answers for what he has done.
Dear followers, please reblog this. I want it to spread like wildfire. This guy is a real “Big Name Pagan” a famous published author, and he spent months bullying, harassing and threatening my godmother and her daughter over facebook. He owns a franchise shop here in New Orleans, and has systematically been trying to sow seeds of distention among local witches and their shops in order to cripple competition. He’s blatantly (racistly) disrespected our local Voodoo community on the radio saying that you shouldn’t have to go to Haiti to get initiated because it’s a “dirty place”. If you see his so-called “apology” don’t buy the hype. He is openly sexist, racist and classicist. This is not the first time he’s done something like this, he is not sorry. He needs to be held responsible for his actions.
I’m at the doctors office and it’s only me and an older white guy in the waiting room and CNN is playing and is talking about ISIS and he just looked at me and chuckled.
this happens to me all the time. its either in airports or doctors offices. me against CNN & white people staring me down soon as the middle east report or something like it comes on
Mz 007- Important
I’ve listened to this at least 10 times since reading about it on For Harriet yesterday.
I’m so here for a fat black woman declaring herself important, exuding self confidence, and owning her truth.
Here for this movement!
if there is a group - a certain race, religion, gender, sexuality - in pain, people outside of the group only care about that pain until something better comes along.
don’t be one of those people. let tragedies affect you. let yourself change and learn from them. fight alongside those affected by them.
do not forget once forgetting becomes convenient.